Breaking Mommy Dearest - A Back Story of Sorts

I don't remember my mother always having a damn near insufferable attitude, but then I think back on all she has been through in her life.  The woman is tough as nails - at least I like to believe so - despite the emotional and physical trauma she has endured.  [I'm going to do my best to be discreet out of respect for her private life and not go into gory detail of some events.  Just trust me when I say, things got bad for a while.] 

MomMom & PopPop, circa 1950s

She was 41 when her father succumbed to leukemia.  Eight years later her mother lost a short battle with pancreatic cancer (MomMom was officially diagnosed on Ma's birthday and passed away less than three months later.)  Now I know that I was blessed with the most amazing set of maternal grandparents EVER.  They were involved in every aspect of their grandchildren's lives, showered us with affection and disciplined us when need be (i.e. if Ma wasn't around.)  I could go on and on about how awesome they were but that would take days, even months.  So I can only imagine that they were an even more amazing set of parents to my mother and her siblings.*
Throughout my childhood Ma was in the hospital every other year for various operations, the biggest one coming to mind the total knee replacement she had while she was still in her early forties - unheard of at the time.  Not to mention that, well, she raised my brother and I as her marriage became a constant state of falling apart while my brother and I were still in elementary school.
So she's been through all of this shit - losing both of her parents at a relatively early age, enduring more physical pain than anyone should ever have to for an ungodly amount of time - with barely a complaint, mind you - while doing everything she could to salvage her marriage to the man she loved.
For simplicity's sake, I'll say this all took place over a fifteen year span.  The shit hit the fan with my father when I was 11, PopPop died when I was 13, the shit continued to hit the fan with Pop all through my high school and college years, MomMom died when I was 21, and Ma finally told Pop to file divorce papers when I was maybe 23, Ma's knee problems, back problems, and weight problems ensuing the entire time.  Yet she her feet still hit the ground every morning.  She kept her head up.  Her faith remained strong, when most would have thrown their hands up in despair and given up.  If she did any of that, my brother never knew or witnessed any of it.*
Then, three years ago, we got the 4 AM phone call that no one should ever receive.  Pop had been in a car accident and didn't survive.  I'm not going to go into the sordid details of this tragedy.  All I am going to say is that in the blurry nightmare following my father's death, I learned just how much Ma still loved him.*

My college graduation, circa 2003.