Heavy Things, Part 1

I asked this question and feel the need to post the incredibly insightful answer.


How did you succeed in getting your *ish* together, and then keep it that way? I struggle everyday with the fact that I'm 26, still live at home and haven't decided whether or not I even want to get married. I work hard, pay my bills, write devoutly in my journal, and have the best family in world, but I am the black sheep. I feel as though because I'm not married, don't have a family, and think with my creative side more than anything, I'm considered an outsider. Since following you on Twitter, I consider you a strong female figure in my life, who's opinion I would greatly value. Any suggestions for snapping out of it?


Thank you for considering me to be a strong female figure in your life. That means the world to me, really. Well, to be honest with you I don't have my *ish* together. Yes I have my own home and a few books on the shelf, among other things...but there is so much more to life. There are still many things I need to do. I am a work in progress. I do not have all the answers. I am a human being, just like you. I am a woman. I get depressed, moody, sad, and distraught too. For me, it was losing my mother 3 years ago that was the catalyst and kick in the ass to get my shit together. I've always been a go-getter. I come from the hood and I've always had to struggle. In addition, I come from a legacy of strong women who would drop you off in the deep end of the pool of life and say "SWIM". That has made the difference. Stuggle, losing the people and things that were a security blanket, and much heartbreak has made me the teflon woman that I am. I never believed that I needed to be married to get ahead. Although I've been there and done that too. Marriage was not for me. It simply slowed down my speed. It was dead weight, so to speak. And unless you have yourself together and love yourself, you cannot bring anything to a relationship but a mess. Who gives a damn about what others think about you being creative? If you are creative...be creative. Who cares what others think? Most people are ignorant and completely delusional. Fly your own kite! You are only a black sheep if you think and say that you are. As long as you keep God first, everything will fall into place in divine time. Trust your heart.